New rules for dating via facebook
So unless you're using Plenty of Tweeps or one of those other weird Twitter dating services (in which case, just succumb to a future of loneliness now), leave your romantic life outta your Twitter stream.Unless, of course, you are one of the members of Arcade Fire ... While Twitter might be awesome for getting one out of prison in foreign lands or selling copies of Arcade Fire's "The Suburbs," it's a really poor place to pick people up.Consider how limiting the medium is: You have 140 characters to show your, well, character.(Yeah, it would be better for all of humanity if we refrained from Facebook-stalking those we're into -- but that cause is about as lost as our generation's innocence). It's totally OK to ask a person out via Facebook if you don't have his/her number: e.g., you met a girl at a party, have a few mutual friends, but lost her in the crowd after that dude jumped in the rooftop kiddie pool naked and shook himself about, causing the crowd to scatter in discomfort.Just shoot the object of your affection a message suggesting a hangout.A recent study by Oxygen Media and Lightspeed Research showed that one-third of women 18 to 34 check Facebook the moment they wake up (we're guessing dudes are equally obsessive), so there's an excellent chance your soon-to-be love will see your charming missive about that sick croquet tourney before s/he's even brushed those pearly whites.
Maybe this is a potential dating site, more like a jazzy lounge, not so much a bump and grind bar.
Yeah, nowadays you can find pretty much anyone's addy via Google and some highly tuned stalking skills, but that doesn't mean it's cool to invade that sacred sphere.
'Cause, let's face it, in this socially connected world (damn, that sounded like the beginning of some horrifying "Your Body Is Changing" film), personal e-mails are our last bastion of privacy: the equivalent of a phone number, you know, back when everyone still used those to call people.
In that case, some guidelines are needed for effective Facebook communication.
Here are some random thoughts from an average “single but not looking” gal: And by the way, have some self-respect and respect for our partner (if we are in a monogamous relationship), avoid engaging in conversations we know are indecent.I enjoy debates and discussions and even the occasional cute animal photo/video.